Sunday, April 10, 2011

Confessions: On Commitment

Excuse my lack of posting since I returned from my trip. It has been a very overwhelming week spent with my furrowed brow buried deep in my laptop screen, over analyzing every last minutia I could find, hemming and hawing, tearing at my hair, avoiding showers and leaving the house, feeling like I'm going to have a breakdown. This is the life of a commitment-phobe. I often call myself indecisive, but the truth is that I usually know what I want. The problem is committing to that decision. I will spend endless amounts of time second-guessing myself, letting all the "what-ifs" race through my head and prevent me from actually committing to the decision that my gut has made.

The truth is, I haven't made my commitment yet; still hovering over the "send" button, fearing that my decision is the wrong one, and it's scary! But I need to do it, and once I've sent that deposit, I'm making more than just the commitment to attend a specific university, I'm also making these commitments:
  • I am committing to myself: to change myself and my life and quit living the easy and somewhat miserable existence I've been letting myself experience for the past 5 years.
  • I am committing to move to a new state
  • I am committing to future all-nighters and to treat school like a full-time job, but still work other jobs so I can afford to feed myself and keep a roof over my head.
  • I am committing to debt, which terrifies me.
  • I am committing to no longer have dead-end jobs that are in no way fulfilling, and to working hard at it, because if I don't, this time and money will all be a complete waste. Mediocrity will not be acceptable.
  • I am committing to step outside of my shell and being pro-active, rather than passive, when it comes to my education, something that does not come easy to me.
  • I am committing to get over my fears of networking so that I can find the job I really want after I graduate.
  • I am committing to not be embarrassed to say what I do when my 10 year high school reunion rolls around next year.
Once I actually click "yes, I will accept your offer" I'll let you all know exactly where it is that I think I've decided to spend the next two years.

1 comments:

ren said...

YEAH! You go!

Apologies, I have been in exactly the same predicament for the past two weeks (though I plan to study in a different field). We are also the same age, and for some reason that is significant to me. There is something really brave about committing to a new life at age 26 as opposed to going to grad school right out of college - you have a life, a job, potentially a serious significant other who you may be leaving, and your thirties lurking around the corner. All of this makes the decision seem so much more dramatic. GREAT for you to have finally made the leap!